As Halloween approaches, costumes become the talk of the town. For one magical weekend, anyone can become anything — spooky, sexy or something in between.
But there’s no reason to restrict our wildest fantasies to Halloween — role-playing offers a chance to explore sexuality from different perspectives by taking advantage of power dynamics. Role-playing with partners presents an opportunity to let go of inhibitions and introduce creativity to sexy time.
Sharing fantasies with partners may seem daunting at first, but a healthy sexual relationship includes understanding what turns our partners on. That said, role-play isn’t for everyone, so one should respect a partner’s refusal to participate. Once obtaining consent for the role-play, partners can discuss the actual roles. Role-playing scenes may be taken seriously or not depending on the players involved. Scripts can range from elaborate to makeshift and take place in person or online.
Though certain role-playing fantasies get more heat than others, essentially any role can become the basis for an excellent erotic experience. Mainstream role-playing scenarios often depict heteronormative, vaguely sexist scenes, such as an executive and secretary or teacher and schoolgirl. But these roles can be played by all genders and partner combinations, preserving the setting while eradicating sexist overtones.
But some people find nothing wrong with following traditional gender roles in their brand of play, though plenty of scenes exist beyond the clichéd norms. Use the following scenarios as a jumping off point to create the perfect role-play:
Wearing costumes to fit the role helps get into character. Even wearing one accessory — an eye patch, firefighter hat or wrench — can put one in the mood to play someone else. Mix and match leftover Halloween costumes with your sexiest underwear, and add cologne or perfume that personifies the role.
Costumes may be intricate or simple; the important thing is to feel comfortable, confident and sexy. For those who can walk in them, heels may add an element of domination. The material of a costume can alter sensations as well. Silky smooth fabrics feel amazing on the skin, while rougher materials may emulate the scene better and provide some interesting friction.
Once you dress for the role, it becomes much easier to play the part.