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“WHAT MAKES TRULY MIND-BLOWING SEX?”

Here at Sex  REAL-SEXCONTACTS, we spend a lot of time answering listener questions and we love every minute of it! So this week, we wanted to do something different. We flipped the script and put out a question to all of you:

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We asked listeners, followers (from REAL-SEXCONTACTS.COM and REALBRITISHSEX.COM) and overall fans of us to think back to an amazing sexual encounter and tell us what made it so incredible.

We were were thoroughly impressed, aroused and inspired by all your responses. In fact, we received so much great feedback that we decided to tease it out a little bit.. Since we know how much some of you enjoy that..

So without further ado, the first installment:
5 tips for truly mind-blowing, knee-weakening sex for you, BY YOU!

1. Foreplay
No surprise there.. As real-sexcontacts always say, foreplay is a requirement, not a suggestion, and is a key ingredient to any sexual encounter. But for those who aren’t used to being treated to a full serving of delicious foreplay, it can really leave a long-lasting orgasmic impression! Kudos to those of you who knew to step it up, and truly enjoyed the outcome.

 

2. Romance
For many listeners, great sex is about more than just bodies doing what they’ve been biologically programmed to do.. It’s about the meaning underneath it. This is where romance becomes a major game-changer.

To take a night of ordinary sex and make it extraordinary, one must turn the sex itself into a thoroughly romantic experience. Don’t just toss sex out like an invitation to the movies. Woo your partner. Sweep them off of their feet. Make them feel loved. This is the time to bust out that sexy playlist you’ve been working on, turn down the lights and fire up some mood-setting candles. If you build the romantic atmosphere, they will come.. Again and again and again.

3. Multiple Orgasms
So yes, there were multiple mentions of multiple orgasms being a staple of mind-blowing sex.. Real shocker! Everyone wants to know that they are rocking their partner’s world, so it kind of goes without saying: the more orgasms, the better the sex.

Anyone can become a master of the O’s, with a fair amount of practice and the right mindset. It’s half physical (knowing the lay of the land, down below) and half mental (Are you relaxed? In the moment? Is your brain “turned on”?). Need a little extra guidance? This blog gives you the three steps to multiple O’s.

4. Sharing the Pleasure
According to several accounts, the delivering of orgasms garnered just as much excitement, if not more, than being on the receiving end. Several listeners revealed that truly mind-blowing sex came from experiencing their partner’s pleasure, and knowing that THEY were the ones who made their partner’s feel that good. It’s a proud moment, isn’t it?

Three tips to help you and your partner share the pleasure:

  • Leave the lights on (or at least light some candles)
  • Keep your eyes open.
  • Don’t hold back.

5. Time
You know what they say. The best things in life are worth waiting for and that includes multiple orgasms. Yep, they take time. Several respondents indicated that the best sex they ever had “lasted all night”.

Now “all night” is a bit of a stretch.. Who’s got that kind of time?

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Are You Here for the Real Thing? Accept No Substitutes – Your Guide to Site Safety.

 

 

 

We make every effort to provide a safe and private environment for you folks to enjoy. We do check all profiles by hand but unfortunately, as with all sites of this nature, some will inevitably slip through the net. Like all online communities, there are people who have other motives, so here are some handy hints to weed out fakes, spot the suspicious, and make sure that your online experience is the best it can be.

It’s Personal

Your username is your suit of armour while getting to know someone online. Wait until you feel completely comfortable before sharing any personal information with a match. And never include your phone number, home address or personal email addresses in your profile.

Here to Help?

Our admin team will NEVER ask you to reveal your password. If you are asked for this by anyone, please report them to us as soon as possible. You can recognise genuine admin staff by the badge they have on their profile.

Easy Tiger!

A lot of people take their time getting to know a prospective partner before meeting up. For others, it can happen much quicker than that, but be wary of people who say they are ready after just a few moments of chatting. If someone seems too keen, too soon, they may have an ulterior motive.

Keep Money in Your Pocket

Never send money to someone you meet online. Report anyone who asks for money or any interaction that seems unusual. Our Customer Service team are here to help you 7 days a week.

No ID, No Problem

Many members have asked us about Dating IDs. You DO NOT need an ID card to join or use the site and any emails or messages regarding these are not associated with us in any way whatsoever. Please report anything like this on the site to a member of staff.

Links that Stink!

Avoid following any links to other websites as these may be insecure. If anyone asks you to verify yourself on another site, be wary. Anyone wanting admin validation can contact a member of our admin team and they will help you.

We’re Your Buffer Zone!

By using the site’s communication tools, we have your back. Once you start communicating outside of the site, our protective measures are extremely limited. Only go off site when you are 100% comfortable.

Be Part of the Solution

If you spot any profiles, members too eager to share their contact details anywhere on the site, or anything else that you feel is suspicious, please contact the Support Helpdesk. You can also click on the ‘report’ button on a members profile and/or the message they sent you to report activity to the staff.

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9 Role Play Scenarios for Sexual Self-Discovery.

You don’t need a fully equipped love dungeon, or engage in an unusual fetish to put some extra pep into your sex life. With a bit of imagination, you can experience some scorching hot sex in other ways. All you need to do is step into someone else’s shoes.

Sexual role play is not a new idea, but it is a good one and, as such, many sensual scenarios have been created, explored and shared.

Whether you crave punishment from a devilish dominatrix, getting up close and personal in a game of doctors and nurses, or sharing some horny passion with a mysterious stranger, here are some classic suggestions for ultimate character-fuelled copulation.

The Boss and the Secretary

As one of many role plays where one person has the power under which the other becomes utterly helpless, this is a great introduction to bondage. When one of you plays the boss, the other can be the eager-to-please assistant, or even one who has been slacking off terribly. either way, the paperwork has been mounting up for too long and it’s about time the two of you got down to a bit of long overdue after hours admin.

Home Delivery

Something wrong with your internet connection? Lightbulb needs changing and it’s just out of reach? Whether the toaster is broken and you are desperate for a different kind of crumpet, or you are hungry for something more than what the pizza guy has got in his box, this could be the game for you. There’s something about sex with a stranger that can be a real turn on, so when someone rings your doorbell and you answer in your finest lingerie, now that’s a wireless signal we can all make a connection with!

Man Maid Action

The man of the house needs help keeping his place ship-shape, and who better to call than the local French maid cleaning service? Imagine his surprise when this sexy stranger in her tantalising outfit shows up on the doorstep and gets going with the dirtiest kind of cleaning he has ever seen. All that reaching, bending and stretching to get to those hard to reach places will give him a show that he is just too tempted to resist.

Playing Doctors and Nurses

We know this scenario is a little cliché and far from an original role play idea, but there’s a reason why it’s such a time-honoured favourite. And that reason is because sexy nurses and dashing doctors are just awesome. Few other real-life situations allow two people to get so close together. As the two of you innocently try to discover what the problem might be, those hands might stumble upon something altogether naughtier, meaning you’ll soon having the kind of check-up that would have most of us going back for regular appointments.

The Hitchhiker

Let go of your inhibitions and take your role play fantasies out of the house with this kinky classic that combines the excitement of car sex with the added fictional task of picking up a total stranger. Arrange for you and your partner to meet somewhere on your journey from A to B, but don’t be too specific as this will help increase the anticipation. The hitchhiker stranded on the side of the road might not have any money to chip in for petrol, but we’re sure you can pull over to a a secluded spot and find even better ways for them to repay the driver’s kindness.

The possibilities are limited only by the imagination, so if getting dressed up in the name of sexual self-discovery sounds appealing to you, get started and get satisfied.

Porn Star

Pick a porn you both like and reenact it together.

Strangers at the bar

Arrive separately to the same bar, flirt a little bit with other people, then eventually go and talk to one another like you’re strangers. This will get the feelings flowing as you start to remember exactly what drew you to each other in the first place.

Hollywood Starlet

You play the sexy star and your partner can be your secret admirer. Do your hair, do your makeup, put yourself in a fancy gown and let your inner diva nature go wild.

Hotel Maid and Guest

Slip into a sexy maid costume and after one knock on the door from “housekeeping” things will heat up in no time.

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Don’t Be Snared by the Sex Trap – How To Be Friends Wth Benefits and Stay that Way.

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Being in a longer term friends with benefits situation with someone can seem like a dream come true, especially if you are not interested in anything more than a satisfying romp!

But a few good movies, and a few bad stories from friends, could have taught you a few things about the infamous FWB relationship. Watch out for the warning signs that your bedmate is craving something more.

They say you can’t have your cake and eat it too, but if that’s exactly what you want, here are some things you need to keep in mind:

Don’t Let That L-Bomb Drop

Never fall in love with a FWB. This is the biggest rule and the easiest one to remember. But then again…it can also be the hardest one to follow.

Have Emotional Maturity

Understand what kind of relationship you’re getting into right from the start. There isn’t supposed to be a happy ending. Make sure you both stay satisfied with a horny ending whenever you hook up and leave the mushy stuff to the committed.

Set Ground Rules

How often should you call each other and how often should you meet? These rules aren’t set in stone, but both of you must make a conscious effort to follow them for the benefit of the other.

Buddy Respect

If you’re not feeling it one day then don’t just ignore their texts or calls. Just politely reply saying ‘no thanks’ in order to keep the relationship healthy. They might just be your friendly sexual playmate but you should still treat them how you would want to be treated yourself.

Timing is Everything

It’s not realistic to expect your bed buddy to drop everything when you are in the mood and vice versa. You both need to respect you have your own lives and not get frustrated or angry if you can’t accommodate each other’s every need.

Try Not to Get Clingy

Your friend with benefits isn’t your lover. If they are constantly calling you or trying to make conversation when they have nothing better to do, it could be a sign that they are looking for more.

Shush! Keep it a Secret

Don’t talk to your friends about your shag buddy. Gossip has a funny way of spreading within minutes after you reveal something personal. You will end up angering your FWB or getting a bad reputation. Besides, having a saucy little secret between the two of you may make it even more exciting.

Never Go on a Date

You may be intimate with each other, but try to avoid doing too many things together before you hit the bedroom. You’ll give out the wrong signals and possibly ruin your non-relationship.

Keep it Simple

Why find out about their personal goings on or have conversations about life and its problems. You’re into each other for sex and you really should avoid involving too much else. Call for one reason and one reason alone.

Be Honest

If you’re falling in love with your bedmate or feel things are slipping out of control, you owe it to them to at least let them know the truth so both of you can decide the course of the relationship.

Friends with benefits relationships have the potential to go very wrong and often aren’t all that successful. When people are involved, you are dealing with real emotions and expectations. Some might say that a true and long term ‘no-strings sex relationship’ is impossible. Just remember that when you are looking for a bed buddy, what you are really looking for, at its very core, is a mutually beneficial arrangement at the simplest level and without all the complicated frills. Be conscious of sending out the wrong vibes, keep within the boundaries and the whole situation can be quite incredible. Enjoy!

 

Ever been in an official friends with benefits arrangement? How did it go? Tell us in the comments.